There is a unique weight carried by those of us who are survivors of complex trauma. It’s not just the events themselves, but the imprint they leave behind—the way they teach us to doubt ourselves, to silence the small voice inside that’s supposed to guide and protect us.
For years, I believed I didn’t know how to take care of myself. I thought I was incapable of protecting myself. That belief wasn’t born from truth, but from the repetition of harm, the conditioning of fear, and the silence I learned to hold. Trauma tells you your feelings can’t be trusted, that danger is always near, that you are never safe—not even within yourself.
But here’s the truth I am learning to live: my feelings are not my enemy. My intuition is not my adversary. It is the most ancient part of me. It is the wisdom that has traveled through generations, the voice that rises up from my gut, my bones, my soul. It is there to keep me alive, to keep me aligned, to keep me whole.
The hardest work is learning to stop betraying that voice. We spend so much of our lives searching outside ourselves for validation and confirmation—waiting for someone else to say “yes, you’re right,” or “yes, that’s safe,” or “yes, that’s true.” In doing so, we betray the inner compass that was always meant to guide us.
Reconnecting with that compass is not easy. It means quieting the noise of the outside world long enough to hear ourselves again. It means trusting the whispers before they become shouts. It means believing that our bodies, our spirits, our humanity are sacred enough to listen to.
We are meant to be connected—within ourselves, with each other, with the earth we come from and will one day return to. When we ignore that truth, when we forget that connection, we get lost. And when we get lost, we repeat the cycles we swore we’d never return to.
The lesson is this: when we don’t learn, we repeat.
But when we listen—when we trust the feelings that rise within us—we step into the power of breaking cycles. We step into our truth. We step into freedom.
I can trust my feelings to speak my truth. And so can you.
A Reflection for You
Take a moment today to sit quietly with yourself. Notice the feelings that rise up—the ones you’ve been taught to push away, to second-guess, to silence. Ask yourself: what are you trying to tell me?
Your intuition is not random. It is not weakness. It is not foolishness. It is the voice of your truth, calling you home to yourself.
So I invite you—just for today—to trust one feeling without questioning it. To honor one inner nudge without needing anyone else’s approval. To take one step that affirms: I believe in me.
Because healing begins when we stop betraying ourselves. And freedom begins when we trust that we already carry the wisdom we’ve been searching for all along.